It's easy to give good advice. You know what you have to do? You have to take a long hard look at all the ways you've fucked up in life and advise people not to repeat your mistakes.
An unexpected consequence of making this blog available to family and friends is that they sometimes speak to me privately about what I write here. Other than a few frowns from my more biblically inclined family, I rarely get specific reactions on the funny things I write. I get a lot of "you are so funny on there" kind of comments.
The comments on the more serious pieces are always specific. The ones dealing with suicide bring tales of people's attempts or of loved ones they lost and what my story has meant to them. It's an odd thing to be known for but if I can help anyone going through those kinds of times I am more than happy to help. It brings a little meaning to the senseless loss my family went through.
The comments that really catch me off guard are the ones on some of the advice pieces I've done. No one ever comes out and says it but it sometimes seems like people think I am far more well adjusted than I actually am.
Just because I can see the right course doesn't mean I always follow it. The day after writing about how the day is what you make of it, I spent the day in a mostly crappy mood because someone irritated me and I couldn't let it go.
I'm stubborn and impulsive. I happily cut off my nose to spite my face to make points no one but me cares about. I rush to judgement, I wallow in self pity, I say things I wish I could take back. I get my feelings hurt when I know no one meant to hurt my feelings, I react before I have all the facts, and I sometimes wish I could change the past.
All the advice you've read here comes from the fights I've had with my own demons. Yes, I'm a pretty happy guy but not because I was born that way. I've struggled with all of the issues you've read about and the advice you read is just the thought process I've used to win those battles against myself.
They say experience is the best teacher, the advice you read here simply shows I'm a good student.